Podcast Episode 006 – When Your Body Says No, But You Say Yes
In this episode, Sam discusses the difficult choice he had to make and how his body revolted. It seems that the universe was somehow conspiring to almost exactly replicate the childhood trauma he’d experienced. We discuss major life changes and transitions in life and release a lot of the lingering emotional stress that had been weighing him down.
Transcript
Kelli:
Welcome to Radical Enlightenment with me today. I have Sam, and we were just talking a little bit beforehand to get a general taste of what we were going to talk about today. And we were talking about some changes in your life that had you moving away from your family and your wife, your kids, to do work. And in doing so, you felt not at home. That wasn’t really the best move for your physical, mental, spiritual space, perhaps, but a necessary one. But it reminded you of what happened in your childhood when your parents had gone through a divorce and there was a custody battle and seemed to be out of your control. But some similar themes going on both in your past and then currently, that were creating a lot of stress for you.
Sam:
Yeah. Absolutely. I came to realize I was working with a few different people, a counselor, therapist, and an Ayurvedic doctor and acupuncture is all kind of my sphere of health practitioners that I work with regularly. So I had this sort of rather intense episode of anxiety and kind of spent a prolonged stretch in the kind of fight-flight state. I mean, went on for weeks, like almost two months talking to them. They helped me to realize, like I had really created this whole scenario. And this was about two years ago now, but still feeling the effects of it. This whole scenario where it was so reminiscent of a really difficult point in my childhood, where my parents had divorced. So we lived in Los Angeles, and my parents got divorced when I was pretty young, and there was a custody battle that went on for a long time. And it was a difficult time for me as a kid. I’m an only child. And so we wound up with kind of two separate homes. And eventually things were so negative between my parents that my mom and I actually moved to another state and set up a new life to get a fresh start there. So I think there was certainly a part of me as a kid that didn’t feel very whole in the family home sense. And all these years later, I had created this scenario where I was doing work in Los Angeles in a different city than I live in. And I had created two homes. I had to live up there during the week and really wanted to be closer to my kids and the family. I’ve had the fortune of being able to do that. Most of my working life, I’ve been able to work from home or from close by, and all of a sudden I found myself working all week in another city and not seeing them nearly as much. And I thought I took a longer assignment, and I thought it was going to be just fine. But in the first week of that assignment, I just had almost like a nervous breakdown experience. I realized now my nerves were just shot and I was just like I said in that fight flight state for weeks and just everything that I tried to do, all the modalities that I usually use to keep myself healthy. And I’m a daily meditator. And, in fact, I’m a meditation instructor. None of it was really getting through. I could not break out of that. And I thought, Man, I’m going to be stuck like this for forever. I just felt like it would never end.
Kelli:
Yeah. There’s a couple of things going on there because the body acts as a warning Bell, kind of like a check engine light in your car. Yeah. You have values in your life, things that mean the most to you, things that you care about. Right. And when you went against that and you felt that there was no other choice, you had to. But when you moved against your alignment with yourself, your body is sending off a warning belt. It’s like, hey, buddy, this is not right. You know, this, like every part of you is in disagreement with what you’re doing. So then you get a couple of choices. Do I listen to the check engine light and head back home and figure out some alternate path? Because what if your health had gotten worse and you ended up hospitalized because you’re not listening to that check engine light and it gets louder and louder and louder, and then you’re not working anyway, right. But of course, we want to be able to handle the ups and downs of life. And we do have challenging times that come up, and you have a family to care for and to financially provide for. So there are times where you just can’t think there’s no other option, or at least you feel that there’s no other option. So then you get stuck, right. And when it happened before, it certainly wasn’t your choice. When your parents are having custody battles about you in court, there’s nothing you can do about that. But as a grown man, now, you have more choices, right? You can listen to your body signals and create a different experience, or you have to figure out how to manage the stress of a challenging situation that is undesirable or unwanted. Right. So now, looking back, do you think there was any other option? Would it have been better just to say, you know what? I thought this was going to work, but it’s not. I’m just going to head home, and we got to figure out an alternate solution because this one doesn’t work for me. What would have happened?
Sam:
It’s a good question. There was just so much change going on. My wife had been dealing with a lot of health issues. She had dealt with cancer and had a number of surgeries, and she had just returned to work after being out of work for a long time. We had actually temporarily moved to another city for a while for work for her and then that whole situation wound up not working out. So we were kind of in a place that we weren’t used to being in, didn’t have a lot of connections, not a lot of options. Yeah. And so I really felt like I had to get in there and do my part. And I was really excited to get this longer assignment. I went into it going, man, I really don’t want to do this because it’s going to have me away from home for most of the week for five to six months. And I had been doing that in shorter bursts. But this time, it meant because we were in another city. I would actually have to fly back and forth instead of being able to drive back and forth. And I was able to kind of come back home, like in the middle of the week and kind of check in and be around a lot more like it made a big difference. And this was flying out on Monday, flying home on Friday and doing it all over again. And there’s a part of me that feels like I’m the dad. I’m the man. I need to do this. I need to step up and take care of it, regardless of my preference. I need to do this. It’s a great ostensibly, it’s a great job. It’s a great opportunity, and lots of guys travel for work, and I should be able to do this, too. So I went in. I was determined to do my duty, and I had this situation where I felt like I almost passed out. And it also kind of felt like I was having a stroke, like, part of my body started to go numb at the same time. It was like I’ve heard that idea that the body gives you these warning signs, right? Sometimes it starts as a whisper, and pretty soon it’s a brick upside the head. And I must have really not been paying attention because the experience I had physically was kind of, like, intense right off the bat.
Kelli:
What was your system trying to tell you? If you close your eyes and from the highest self that you can come to from those eyes, what do you think that your system was trying to tell you in that moment?
Sam:
I really think that it must have been telling me that this wasn’t the way, that something was not right. It was clearly, like, kind of a big, like something is not right. Warning! Danger! kind of kind of thing. But the challenge that I had with it is that I went in a direction, I think, mentally and emotionally, I realize now, after a couple of years and doing some work around it that there’s different paths that I could take, like, I could observe this situation where it feels like something’s going wrong in my body. And maybe it could be something serious. But it turned out not to be. So I could have observed it with curiosity and wondered what it meant and not made left to any judgments or anything. But instead, my reaction at the time was like, I’m having a stroke. I’m never going to play with my kids again. My life’s going to change. And just in a few seconds of like going down that path, and I went down that direction instead of I went in that direction instead of the other. And then it kind of set the tone that led to okay, well, I feel okay now. But now I’m worried. What did that mean? And is there something bigger going on? And now do I need to have a whole bunch of tests done and oh, my God, they’re going to find something. And it was just a cavalcade of those negative spiraling thoughts.
I realized now I had the option, but I think to go back to the question you asked, I would have to say that sort of really feels clearly like it was presented as kind of a big red flag warning sign. Well, maybe it just tells you more about what your non negotiables are. Right. We’ll see, because first you have to clear the past trauma so that, you know, it’s just not replaying an old pattern. But after that…let me figure out how to put it.
Kelli:
Yeah. It’s just maybe telling you that there are nonnegotiables that you have in your life and moving forward that’s being separated from your family isn’t going to be one of them. Yeah. All right. So what we’re going to do is we’re going to set up connection energetically. And I’m going to ask your system if there is a trapped emotion that’s causing or contributing to this pattern that we can clear from your energy system. And I have a list of 60 emotions. This is emotion code therapy, so I can identify exactly what it is. And if we need to know more about it, we can figure out what age, and then we clear it from the energy body so that it’s no longer causing or contributing to the symptomology you’re experiencing. So first let’s just close our eyes and let’s set an intention that it’s going to be powerful, that will be led to the root. And we can make changes right there that any changes that we make are assimilated with ease and Grace, and that everything we do is in your best and highest overall good. And we’ll add gratitude. It’s such a powerful emotion. So I’m so grateful and thankful that there’s already healing occurring just by us having a conversation and coming together today.
Go ahead and open your eyes. Now, when I set up connection, I put our highest selves in communication, and I ask yours energetically if it’s safe and appropriate to link up kind of like an energy phone call. And then I also make sure it’s safe and appropriate for me to do that. And it takes about 30 seconds. So you’ll hear silence, and then I’ll let you know what I discover.
Okay. Yeah. I got the approval on both sides. So now I can receive a response, and I’m muscle testing. I muscle test my hand, but I’m muscle testing now on your behalf. So it’s like my needs are pushed aside. My subconscious is pushed aside. My own physical response is pushed aside so that I can get a response from your signal that’s coming through. So I ask, is there a trapped emotion that is causing this to show up? There’s been broken, sleep, low energy. And your main goal is to remain steady through the ups and downs of life, to be anchored and grounded and not blown around by external forces. We talked about that earlier so that’s our overarching goal is to diminish those physical symptoms and to allow you to feel more steady and anchored. So we’ll have that be the primary goal here. And we’ll release those emotional energetic blockages that are in the way of that. Again, you’ll hear silence. And then I’ll tell you what I find.
The first thing is indecisiveness. And when we go through this, we’re going to be really open and curious because you might think I know exactly what that’s about, but it could be something from the past. So I’m going to ask your system first, do we need to know more about that to clear it? And I received a no, which means that energy is ready to be released, or it means you already know what it is, and we don’t need to bubble up something to your conscious awareness to then be released. Your system says, Let it go. So I’m releasing that from your energy body. We’re using the governing Meridian, which goes from your nose across the top of your head, down the back of your neck, down your spine. And my body is acting as proxy or an interrogation for you right now. So I clear it from the system. And then I go back and I check, is this indecisiveness now released? And I got a yes. And then it’s just like layers of an onion. So we just keep going and going and see what we can get, what we can release.
Okay. Next, emotion, a feeling of frustration. And when I’m releasing it, this means that at some point in your life, you were feeling this so overwhelmingly that instead of riding the wave of it feeling it letting it go. It was either suppressed or repressed. Or sometimes we just have to go to work. We’re like, we don’t have time for this right now. So we push it down and it becomes clogged energy in the system. So we’re not releasing all the indecision or all the frustration in your life. But it’s that one moment in time where it was so overwhelming, it’s unprocessed. That’s what we’re releasing. So this frustration. Do we need to know more about that? And again, I got to know. So we’re going to release that energy.
Is this frustration now clear? And I got a yes. There’s another one. Yes.
Heartache. Do we need to know more about that? Yes, this one we do. You told me earlier your age is 49. So did this heartache get trapped before you were 25? That’s a no before 35 is a no before 45 is a no. This is age 46. Now, if anything comes up, that is too personal, you can always think it. And then I can muscle test to see if what you’re thinking is the thing we need to identify or not. So just let me know if anything like that comes up. So this heartache, age 46. Do we need to know more? And actually, I got to know we don’t need to know any more than that. So I’m going to release that energy. Sometimes people feel this on the other side. Sometimes it feels a little bit tingly, or you notice feeling a little different. Sometimes people yawn. That’s called off gassing. It’s like releasing that trapped energy. So don’t stifle any yawns if you feel any coming. And the heartache is now clear. Okay. I’m going to keep going.
Feeling of helplessness. I’ve noticed that coming up so much with Covid and Quarantine, helplessness and hopelessness have been probably the most that I’ve seen in the majority of people.
Okay. So this one. Do we need to know more about it? Yes, we do. Did it happen before 25 and no before 35 is no before 45 is no again at 46, helplessness. Do we need to know more than that? Yes. Okay. So age 46. This was about three years ago. So would this have anything to do with your wife having cancer or surgeries? What was going on around 46? Well, let’s see.
It could be within the year, like it could be 45, about to turn 46 or just turn 47. So about a year, leeway there. But right around there, helplessness and heartache also came up around that time, too.
Sam:
Yeah. I feel like this is like it could very well be connected, right? With that intense experience that I described, because that was just over a couple of years ago.
Yeah. There was all that change. My wife actually had been going through a lot, but she had a really bad experience with the new job that she took. We moved away from the place that we had really committed to being home. And she had a surgery that she wound up having a post operative infection. And it got really we wound up going to the doctors and they were pretty grave about it. And I was kind of faced with that. That thought like, oh, what if I didn’t have her around anymore? And there were just changes like my kids I just felt in that time, too. Like my kids are getting older. My relationship with them was changing. There’s almost like a bit of a mourning of the loss of the little ones in that kind of relationship that you have with children when they really need you. And they’re excited to see you every day versus when they get a little bit older and they’re like, oh, hey, dad. And it was like that age is when kind of just so much was happening. I don’t know when I say it now, it’s almost no wonder that something had to crack at some point.
Kelli:
Well, it seems like life changes are tough. We talked about you being in your late 20s and having a delineating time about changing from bachelorhood into settling down and maybe moving into adulthood. And that was kind of a rough time. And here it is, mimicked again. So whenever there’s kind of a big change within the pattern of your life that seems to be really impactful.
Sam:
Yeah. It’s almost like, I guess many of us have certain ideas and visions about how we intend for life to go. And often things do diverge from that best laid plan. And I think I can see when you say that there have been some moments where that change has been a little bit more challenging for me to go with or accept. Maybe there’s a little bit of a rigidity there in the idea versus accepting the actual acceptance is huge because resistance causes so much stress and pain.
Kelli:
Yeah. Wherever there’s resistance. Right. So first, accepting what is because we don’t have a time machine. We can’t change the past up to this moment. But then I also believe it’s never too late. So it’s figuring out how you mean to go on and you can pivot. You can make changes. If you’re unhappy with certain things, you can invite some positive shifts into your life.
Sam:
I actually made a complete career shift as a result of that experience. I need to make a change that allows me to be not tied to a different city to Los Angeles. In this case, that industry. I was really tied to an industry in L.A. I made a complete change there and sort of reinventing myself in that way. I was so associated with doing that particular job in that particular career. But like you pointed out earlier, there are these sort of non negotiables and things that we have that are core values. I realized through that experience, mine was about being able to be around to be present for my family, that’s you more than anything else. Ultimately. So I made a career shift that allows me to work more from home and build the business here in my local area. It’s anchored there instead of somewhere else.
Kelli:
When you realign, then those warning bells don’t need to be there anymore. I know you went through a lot of healing on your journey and saw a lot of different practitioners, but probably realigning that congruence with who you really are and what you really need and require that probably created a huge shift right there. It’s like once you’re on the path, then your body is like, oh, thank goodness. Finally listening. Good job.
Sam:
Yes, I get it. Absolutely. I can feel that when you say that. You’re right.
Kelli:
Let’s see. Do we need to know anything more about this helplessness? I think we do. Let me double check. I got kind of a warble on that one. So do we need to know anything more about this helplessness? Yeah, we do. There’s something else we have not identified yet that needs to come up to conscious awareness, age 46. Sometimes if I read the definition that helps pull a memory, being unable to help oneself, being without the aid or protection of another, having little strength or personal power, a common emotion from those suffering from victim mentality feeling unable to change one circumstances or state a lot of those themes we talked about. Yeah, you pretty much read a pretty accurate description of I think so much that I felt at that time. What are we missing? Because there’s a component we haven’t brought up yet that was contributing to that that needs to be identified. It’s kind of like we’re having a conversation with your subconscious, and I’m like, hey, are you ready to let this go yet? And then your system says, no, there’s something else that Sam needs to know. And so we’re like, okay, what is it that Sam needs to bring to conscious awareness, and then your system will say, okay, I can let that go now. Well, what comes to mind right away when you say that is if you look at all these different aspects of life and the major stressors for people, right? Like kids, finances, moving.
Sam:
Those three are at the top of the list. And I was going through all those at that time. Just prior to that time where I had that particularly acute incident, that was probably a big warning sign or the result of things that had probably been going on and had been building for a while there. We wound up having to move a couple of different times. My wife was going through a lot with her health issues.There was a lot going on there. And then there was also a big shift there with my career. So I had been working really consistently with a great client, and I was feeling really good about what I was doing. What I was putting out into the world felt really like it was really beneficial, and I was being well compensated for it and being recognized as being good at it, which are the three big things that we all need in a job. I had all three of those going, and after a long stretch of that, things changed, and that was beyond my control. And so I had been working on that. And it was a big resetting in that experience. I looked at
I was working on a particular idea, like, we talked about this just a minute ago, like having a certain vision or how things are going to go. And that situation was going to keep going for a long time. And the vision that I had and I was going to keep building on that career wise and financially and everything. And so a rather sudden shift happened there with that particular client unrelated to me. And that put me back in a situation where I had to reinvent myself even before I reinvent myself. More recently, I realized I had to figure out. And so it took me back up to Los Angeles, which is a place I hadn’t been for a long time. And then being back in that world, I was kind of starting. I had reached some pretty high heights, had a lot of awards and accolades in that industry, and was feeling like I was restarting. So I think I was just generally feeling a big Delta between where I thought I should be career wise, family wise, financially, so many things and where I actually was. I think that career aspect is a whole another element that we didn’t even really discuss before. But that’s what bubbled up for me. So it’s kind of like, all the pillars. Yeah. You got flipped upside down, man. Pillars were all off, like, it wasn’t just like, oh, man, things can get kind of wobbly. When one pillar is out of balance. It was like, all of them. But health was good. And then the health, it was like, well, there’s that one leg standing and it just couldn’t hold it up. And I felt like, man, for the first time in my life, I was really concerned about my health.
Kelli:
I can’t remember for some reason the word Milton is coming to mind, but I’m not sure if that’s what it was, but we learned about it in psychology, and it’s just like a stress test that we could give a patient or a client, and you give 100 points for all these different stressors, and you’re hitting all the marks for give another 100, add another 100, add another 100, all these life changes that you’re talking about. It’s no wonder that you experienced what you did.
Sam:
It’s actually almost helpful to hear that, because it’s like, okay, you’re like, I’m okay. Yeah. There’s a lot going on. I guess. I don’t know. There’s a part of me that wants to feel like I’m not just weak or weak of fortitude. I felt like, really strong. Like, I mean, I got through not a few years before that age 46 that you’re talking about. I had lost both of my parents and just that the whole decade between 40 and 50 here has just been really wrought with challenges and change and a lot. So I felt like, Man, I’m doing pretty good here. And then I finally got a little wobbly. But I feel like I’m getting back this whole covet thing has been certainly challenging, but it’s also had its share of positives, too. What’s cool is like it reset the world like you were in such a state of reset for yourself, and now we’re kind of all in it together. You’re like, reset everybody. So you’re not as alone in that anymore. Most of us are all going through that, too. Yeah.
Kelli:
So let’s see if there’s anything we need to know left that we need to know about this helplessness. And I got to know. So we’ve identified what it is. I can clear that energy now,and this helplessness is now released now. I’m just going to keep going. Layers of an onion. Let’s see what else pops up.
Discouragement.
We need to know more about this one. This one is before 35. It’s between 30 and 35. And then I just go 30, 31, 32, 33. So we’ll see 31. So this is discouragement. Age 31. That wouldn’t have been what we talked about in your late 20s, right? Because this would be a little bit after that encouragement. Let me see if we need to know more about it. Yes, we do. I’ll just check something with family of origin. So that would be like your mom dad type of thing that tested weeks. Something with current family. Yes. So were you married at that point?
Sam:
Age 31. That was before I got married, but I was together with my wife then.
Kelli:
There’s something about the relationship, but there’s also something else. Financial is testing strong. Career is testing strong. So that’s telling me there’s something going on with discouragement, with finances, your relationship, your career. Is that ringing a Bell?
Sam:
Yeah. That was right around the time we had bought our first home here in San Diego. Okay. And we’re also just starting our business at that time, we ultimately had to sell the home and move back up to Los Angeles despite really wanting to be down here. But it was more because the business was starting to take off. Okay. We were just getting busier and busier, but there was a period there, too. I remember in that time when we were selling the house and before things, there was a big uphill climb from there with our business just taking off. It was right at the very beginning and finances were tight, and it was challenging right then. Okay. It was kind of a big leap of faith kind of situation happening there.
Kelli:
We don’t need to know more about this. We can release this now.Okay. It’s now clear. Let me keep on going.
So we’re onto this emotion called a hidden emotion. This is one that you don’t want to look at. You kind of hide it from yourself. Push it out of the way. There’s a hidden emotion. Well, that sounds like that’s going to be tough, despair, kind of a loss of hope. So do we need to know more about that? Yes. Before you’re 25, no. 35. No. Before 45. No. Before. Let’s see. 46 again. 46 is coming up a lot. Do we need to know more about that to clear it? And I got a no. So we’ve identified enough about why that would be there.
All right. This emotion is now clear. Is there another hidden emotion to release? I got to know now there’s one called a compound emotion. When there’s more than one emotion. Like, if I witnessed a traffic accident, it might be shock and horror type of thing. Is there a compound emotion we can release for your goal? I got to know. Is there emotional resonance is where your whole body is vibrating with an emotion. Is there an emotional resonance we can release that’s blocking you from your goal? Yes.
Helplessness. So you’re ringing like a Bell with that, we can clear that. Do we need to know more about this? Yes. Was this before you were 25? No. Before 45? Yes. 41. This one’s 42, age 42 with helplessness. So this would have been before several years before all that stuff happened.
Helplessness. 42. Something to do with family of origin. Something to do with current family,something to do with friends tested strong. So what was going on with career friends around 42? Maybe you were in business with a friend or something. Or maybe those were two separate things.
Sam:
Yeah. I did have an experience around that time where I had someone who was I was doing business with had become somewhat of a business partner. And we were also friends. But I always felt like I wanted to be friends with this person more than they wanted to be friends with me. We seem to be good friends. I but started to just get various signals and things just over from different experiences, like, hey, let’s get together and have some beers after work kind of thing. And I was the one that was obviously more interested in that. And then there was a big change in business going from a big entity, big brick and mortar kind of entity to there was a big change there where we went from having a big facility to no longer needing or being able to afford to have that big facility. So there was another period there. It’s funny, because the last one, at 31, we hit at a time where we had been really trying to live in San Diego, which my heart always tells me that’s where I belong, I had to go back up to La. And now you just hit on another point where we had the same thing. We had moved back down again. We’ve been back and forth between La and San Diego over, like, 20 years. This is another period where I was commuting up to La less frequently than I did more recently. And we had to make some major changes with the business through that period and ultimately wound up coming back down around that point to live in San Diego permanently. Big transition times, right?
Kelli:
Yeah. Let’s see. Do we need to know more about this to clear it? We do something that you’ve already mentioned. Tests week.Interestingly. Something that has to do with spirituality or religion. What we might put in that category is testing, feeling helpless about it. So I wonder if you were going through some type of questioning or a rough time. Or maybe this is when you started meditating or something. But is this that same still age 42 because I’m testing like, it’s something to do with sexuality? No. Something to do with relationship. No. Something to do with spirituality, religion. I got a yes. So I was like, okay, that’s interesting. So what was going on with that around age 42?
Sam: Well, that’s really kind of around the time. I think that things really took off for me, working with a client in spirituality and definitely diving deeper into that. For me, it was an interesting experience where we were kind of at the pinnacle with our business living in Los Angeles, things looked really good, had some major success and awards and accolades, and I was feeling less fulfilled and more stressed than ever and started looking for something. Realizing there was something more and I sought out and I found a meditation class and started doing that. And through that experience, I started sort of putting out intentions to maybe be able to use my skills in working in that business, which has the power to reach a lot of people for good, for maybe human evolution, human consciousness. And I wound up with working with a client that was dead smack in that space. It’s kind of really interesting. Synchronicities that play there. Yeah.
Kelli:
Okay. Let’s see. Do we need to know anything more about this helplessness? And I got a weak. That means we’ve identified what we need to this one was that residence where you’re kind of ringing like a Bell with it. So we are going to clear that now.
Okay. That’s now clear. Is there another emotional residence we can release for your goal? I got to know, is there an ancestral emotion we can clear for your goal? Yes.
Ancestral heartache.
Okay. This was on your mom’s side, going back more than five generations. Test week. More than three. More than three test week. More than two test strong. So three generations. So this would be your great grandparent, your great grandfather, great grandmother on mom’s side. Great grandma. Do we need to know more about that? No. Okay. So we’re releasing that heartache. It could have something to do with why it’s so challenging to be away from family. If you have this inherited emotion of things like heartache, if that had to do with friends or family or something like that, when that’s passed down genetically, that could be more impactful because it’s already there and present for you. And then when it hits you, in real life, you’re like, oh, okay. Yeah. Feeling that one. Okay. Let’s see if that one is now clear. I got a yes. There’s another ancestral emotion that we can clear in relationship to your goal. I got a no. There’s an in utero emotion I can clear in relation to your goal. I got a no. There’s any type of emotion I can clear. No. Okay. We get to this point where that’s either all that is connected to this or that’s all your body is willing to process. At this time, we would have to check at a future date to see if there is more. But when I’m checking all the different angles, I’m getting a no.
So sometimes people feel after a session like this, that almost like there was an annoying sound that was turned on all the time that you’re so used to it that it just becomes your natural state. And then when it shuts off, you get this feeling of relief, like, have you ever had that in the kitchen where maybe the kitchen stove fan is on and then it kicks off and you’re like, ahhhhhhh.
Sometimes people feel like that after one of these sessions, or you just feel a little bit lighter and freer. Not so weighed down. Not so heavy.
Sam:
I definitely feel that already. For sure.
Kelli:
I’m glad. And then there are a couple, like, maybe 20% of people might experience things, some side effects like, you might have increased energy. Some people get hyper. They’re like, I needed to go for a run. I need to expel some energy. Some people get tired. I need a nap. Some people have vivid dreams for a couple of nights, so you might wake up and go, Whoa, that was a doozy. And you might feel a little bit emotionally tender because it’s almost like this emotional surgery. I’m like, let’s dig in there and figure out exactly what it was and take that out. So if you feel a little bit tender, that can be normal, too. And then usually within a couple of days, that clears up and then hopefully feeling even lighter and freer from there. Right. So at this time, if I were to ask you, is there an action step that you feel called to do in your life right now, we create these subconscious changes, these changes in the energy. But we’ve got to create a bridge into our physical world, into this 3D reality. So based on anything that came up, do you feel called to do any action step?
Sam:
There’s a couple of things coming to mind. So I’m just trying to process something that just came to me through, kind of along the way through this session with you is that I had that experience where I felt stuck to be working away from home and away from the kids and the family that wasn’t really working for me. I’ve made this change in my career, which is great. But I’m finding I thought this time, for instance, with the covid situation and all this time that we’re sort of being asked to stay at home and everything would result in a little bit more of quality family time. And I think we all did that. We’re like, this is going to be great. We’re going to play games and do puzzles every night. And I think we’ve all felt like somehow we’ve been busier than we were before also. And so I just think I need to like, I’ve done this work and I feel like I need to honor all that I’ve been through and done and changed and actually make space for that to happen more because I could just kind of change the location but wind up with a similar situation so that I felt coming up for me as we were talking through some of the points.
Kelli:
And what would the whole family want to do? Like, do you want to get up and go for a hike somewhere? Do you want to go? Something that we like to do sometimes is go to D Street in Encinitas, maybe walk around the beach for a little bit. And then there’s Rauls Taco shop, grab a burrito, watch the sunset together. What would be something that the whole family would actually enjoy doing together?
Sam:
Yeah, that’s one of the challenges right now. The kids are spread out enough in age where their needs and their desires are different, and we find it challenging to do something with everyone where somebody is not unhappy. So usually, like, light it up and maybe like, any combination of two of the kids works out better than all three of them. But what I also try and do, too, is rotate through and take each one of them and do some really quality experience that is unique to what they want to do. And that’s great, too, if it’s going to be challenging to do something that everybody’s going to enjoy between my wife and I’m much more physical and outdoorsy than she is. So we all have our own unique needs. But finding that common ground where we can each do something that we’re enjoying. I did that like yesterday I was like, I’m just going to stop working and the kids get out of school early on Mondays, and I just take off and like I went and I took my middle one who is also the more outdoorsy of the group. We went and went to the pump track with our bikes and just spent hours doing jumps and working on our mountain biking skills and things like that. And that felt so good. I haven’t really done that in the last couple of months have been all working and no playing, so that’s my commitment to myself is making space for the things that I enjoy and for the family.
Kelli:
Maybe tonight you can get with them and just say, I just came to this realization. I really want to make this more of a priority. So tell me what cool thing you want to do and let’s plan it.
Sam:
That’s a great idea, Kelly. Absolutely. That’s a great advice. Definitely. I’ll do that. Okay.
Kelli:
All right. Well, let’s say goodbye and thank you so much for being part of this. I really appreciate your vulnerability and sharing really personal experiences. And hopefully, somebody will listen to this, and they’ll be connected to what we’re talking about in some way. Right. We’re all going through life changes. We all do things that are challenging that sometimes we don’t want to do, but we feel we have to do so. Many of us experience anxiety. The world just got flipped upside down. You know what I mean? So I hope that in some way, this has touched others. They feel this camaraderie like, wow. I’m not alone. I’ve gone through that, too.
Sam:
Yes. Absolutely. And for them to know that there are things that can help us understand where those emotional pieces got stuck and that there are ways to clear them, like working with someone like you. Hopefully, that’s something, too, that people will recognize and understand that we have a greater eight resources here.
Kelli:
Thank you, Sam. Thank you for being here.
