We hear about acceptance in spiritual and religious circles all the time. But man is it hard sometimes! But how do we have acceptance now, when we have friends and family members who are not acting in their best interest? They might be stressed, sick, self-harming, or in crisis. We have to convince them that they need help, don’t we?!
Unfortunately, no amount of moaning, groaning, griping, complaining, hoping, or wishing will change another person. In order to create a change the person must either be so inspired or arrive at some sort of rock bottom in order to be spurred to growth.
This goes for little things like wishing your child would be more motivated, wishing your partner was different in some way, to wishing that someone in your family wasn’t addicted to food, drugs, alcohol, etc. Sometimes the more we try to push, the more they push back and it even makes it worse.
We all have beauty within us, idiosyncrasies, and challenges. The human experience is a crazy one. We have ups, downs, all arounds. So can we accept the ALL? The WHOLE messy humanness? And can we see through all of the B.S. stuff that each of us deals with to the core being underneath it all? If we can get to that place, it’s usually one of love.
Unconditional love is the best support that we can give, the best healing salve, the cure-all. Unconditional love provides so much peace and security and supports loved ones with their growth.
This does not mean enabling or accepting harmful behavior from another. You can choose what you stick around for. And if there is abuse of any kind, leave right now. You can still send waves of love to them from afar.
Bonus question: What if I’m dating someone… How do I know whether they’re the right person for me, or if I just need to stop being so pick and accept them as they are?
Ask yourself if you can accept them fully as they are RIGHT NOW. Not in the future, not if certain things change, but right now. If the answer is no, then it is not the right fit. Exit with kindness.
If you are wondering if someone is the right person to marry? It is not the right fit. Because when it is the right person to marry there will be no doubt. There will be an inner knowing; a very strong YES.