Relationship Tip: Light Yourself Up!

It sounds odd that focusing on yourself would benefit your relationship.  Check out this relationship tip to see why you should light yourself up in order to have the best relationships!

When we do the things that we love the most, the more we are ✨ LIT UP 🔥  from the inside, and we are:

  • More content, and therefore more pleasant to be around.
  • More interested in LIFE; more vibrant.
  • More patient and tolerant because our energy bucket is filled.

We are a better lover, partner, son/daughter, parent, sibling, employee or boss, colleague, creator, neighbor, community member when we’re doing the things that fuel us the most.

To have a fulfilling life and avoid anxiety and depression, one of the most important things to do is figure out what we’re most interested in: the things that get us into a flow state, the things that make life worth living… and do them!

These things are hyper-personal and may be different from what others in our life like to do. 

sign saying do what you love

For great relationships, not only do we need to do the things that light us up, but we need to support our friends, family members, and significant others in doing the things that light them up! It’s okay if the things are totally different from what you prefer.

[Note: One of the biggest regrets seniors have is listening to the voice of friends and family members rather than their own. Not marrying the person they truly loved, not following the career path they were really drawn to.]

We’ve seen a lot of relationships fall apart because one person doesn’t support what the other wants to do. They don’t get it, and sometimes they don’t want the other person doing things on their own and get jealous of time spent away from them. This only constricts and smothers the spirit of the person, and they either feel like a caged animal or become a shell of a person, dead on the inside.

Do you like cold camping? Neither do I! It sounds like torture to me, but my soul mate loves it!

Man cold-camping by his van

When we love someone, we have to let them be free to do the things they love the most.

Encourage them to go out and do it, because when they are in your presence, they will be their most vibrant and relaxed selves, and more fun to be around. They will be the best version of themselves, making for better relationships all around.


So get out there and light yourselves up! Go on and live your best life! And support the ones you love in living their best lives too.

RESOURCE: Want to get inspired about figuring out what you want to do the most, and doing it?

HERE’S AN AWE-INSPIRING PODCAST about a person who when from debilitating anxiety that led to agoraphobia and deep depression to going 100% ALL OUT in creating a bucket list with a few friends of 100 things they wanted to do and accomplishing them over a decade. One of their dreams was to play basketball with President Obama – and they did!

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Kelli Russell

Kelli Russell is a psychological kinesiologist who helps people shift out of stress and anxiety into a state of inner balance and freedom through subconscious change facilitation, positive mindset training, and emotional energy healing.